This blog is against 50 Shades of Grey and will NOT support it this Valentine's Day.
You know, I wasn’t going to post one of these even though a lot of my followers did, because that’s not what my blog is about. You know, I don’t want to tell people what to enjoy and not enjoy, and hey, you wanna read these books or see this movie, I don’t want to be the one to put a damper on your party.
But then I was listening to the radio at work the other day. Radio 104.5 in Philly, and the male DJ did a little advert for the film, and what he said just made me so uncomfortable, I suddenly felt the need to speak up. He said “And boys, this is how to take things from the movies to the bedroom this Valentine’s Day”. And I just imagined all these boys who didn’t know any better trying to replicate the abuse they see in the movie on their girlfriends or dates. And I felt sick.
This book series is not what BDSM is about, it does not represent the BDSM community as far as I'm aware and it does show an abusive, unhealthy relationship. So please, be educated before you see the film and don't try what you see at home (because they're doing it wrong). Be safe.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM
http://www.submissiveguide.com/encyclopedia/bdsm/
http://www.divinecaroline.com/love-sex/6-myths-about-bdsm-inspired-50-shades-grey
Good for you, buddy. I haven't read this book or plan to see the movie, but I'm sure it's an inaccurate portrayal. Hollywood never gets things right.
ReplyDeleteI have not read the book, and I try to refrain from making judgements about novels and movies I don't see, but in this case I read several reviews by intelligent readers, and they all had the same things to say, about how it glorified abuse, not a healthy BDSM relationship, and that it was extremely poorly written (like painful to force themselves to read it so they could write the review). The movie reviews seem to be along the same lines, of not only terrible subject matter but awful execution (by both male and female critics).
ReplyDeleteKudos for you for speaking up about this!
I will not be seeing or reading 50 Shades - I'd rather read a month of Dan Savage columns!
ReplyDeleteI am just so freaking sick of 50 Shades of Gray! Everything I've read about the books makes them sound like total trash and the reviews I've read about the movie make it sound so awful. I just don't get it....
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